The saying- "you have to crawl before you walk" is all to familar. Today I can confidently say that I dont believe in it. In the grand scheme of things, this saying calls for one to settle...crawling often means for you to aim low and then build yourself up. But if you know what you want and you think that you can do what you want, why not aim for the top. Why cant we have everything we want when we think we are ready for it. If im fresh out of college and I think that I would make a wonderful community organizer, why not go for that very position. When people aim low, they sometimes get comfortable and cease to ever reach the stars; their drive decreases; and ultimately, they are okay with not being all that they could be and living up to their God given potential...its problematic.
In short, we need to stop being scared to aim high. Instead, we need to make sure we are prepared, take the necessary steps to attain the goal and go for it. When you position yourself for mediocracy, its exactly what you get. Sometimes you have to go out on faith and position your life in a way where success is the only option....
Showing posts with label Ah ha moment. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Ah ha moment. Show all posts
Friday, June 11, 2010
Tuesday, June 1, 2010
AH HA Moment- Marriage friendships
Im starting something new. Its called my "Ah ha moment". I'm hoping that I can challenge myself to figure out a problem and confront it, all in the same post. I need this because I dont do well with interpersonal conversations-I need to feel like Im talking to someone, even if I am saying this to myself. You are my audience right now so, I will talk to you (although its advice that Im giving to myself). So I hope you enjoy....
AH HA MOMENT NO. 1
I have done it, and if you are a female, you have probably done it too...its a common issue...we have approached our relationships, as if they were marriage.
Women, who someday want to get married, work extra hard to hide flaws, be the ideal woman, and end up treating their man like a husband. Sometimes he may not even be your "boyfriend" but you will make him a special priority. Why? Because you cant distinguish between being a friend, a girlfriend, and a wife. For some of us, all 3 of these titles mean the same thing-and they shouldnt.
How can someone appreciate you as their wife when you act the same as when you were just their girlfriend...why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free???
Truth of the matter is that there is a line, and we disrespect it, cross it, ignore it, all the time.
Dont treat any ol man as you would your husband. Especially if he doesnt treat you like his wife. Dont let any ol man put his dusty shoes all over your welcome mat, then step into your house. Be careful of who you let in and to what extent. Allow people the opportunity to prove themselves.
AH HA MOMENT NO. 1
I have done it, and if you are a female, you have probably done it too...its a common issue...we have approached our relationships, as if they were marriage.
Women, who someday want to get married, work extra hard to hide flaws, be the ideal woman, and end up treating their man like a husband. Sometimes he may not even be your "boyfriend" but you will make him a special priority. Why? Because you cant distinguish between being a friend, a girlfriend, and a wife. For some of us, all 3 of these titles mean the same thing-and they shouldnt.
How can someone appreciate you as their wife when you act the same as when you were just their girlfriend...why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free???
Truth of the matter is that there is a line, and we disrespect it, cross it, ignore it, all the time.
Dont treat any ol man as you would your husband. Especially if he doesnt treat you like his wife. Dont let any ol man put his dusty shoes all over your welcome mat, then step into your house. Be careful of who you let in and to what extent. Allow people the opportunity to prove themselves.
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