Tuesday, June 15, 2010

Raheem Devaughn - The Love Experience

The love experience is a ongoing flow of trial and error. Nevertheless we should all experience the love thru others, take the good with the bad, and allow love and life to take its course...

Friday, June 11, 2010

Love letters

You can easily be described as the exclamation point to my run on sentences. I can go on and on for days but when I see your face, everything stops...I guess I have Malcolm X to thank, for changing your life and therefore changing mine. A sort of ripple affect, so to say. You see you have me now, but I've come to understand that it is very likely that you have had me then, way back when we would see each other in passing or were simply in the same space with one another; its possible that I have always been yours. I think back to days when we would be surround by people but were always drawn to one another...you have always been there and so have I. My affection has sense grown tremendously and now find myself in a what can only be described as bliss, defined as a cause of great happiness or great joy. But most of all, Im appreciative and faithful...
Weeks ago, I told myself that I can be of some sort of help to you, that your personal growth would be easier if you had me as a close friend to push you. How arrogant of me. Only recently it occurred to me that you will impact my life in the same ways, if not more, than I would impact yours. My problem was that I am comfortable in my comfort zone, i seemingly have my shit together and dont have to answer to anyone, and when I was content-not quite happy and not quite sad but content. Because of this, I confused progress with sustainability, I was simply maintaining. Its no coincidence that I have wrote poetry for the last 9 years of my life and the first time that I recited anything was in your presence; its no coincidence that the summer before my true journey into adulthood begins, you are here with me and encouraging me to be a stronger, more holy woman; its no coincidence that I reached out to only you the last time that I cried, usually I reach into myself and dont let my guard down or shed a tear in front of anyone. How arrogant of me to believe that this union had nothing to do with my needs...that I had the upper hand.
There is no better feeling than to look into your eyes and see truth. There is no better feeling than to look into your eyes and see compassion. There is no better feeling than to look into your eyes and see my reflection and know that we are building the foundation of something special and lifelong. So I wrote this love letter to tell you what you have meant to me, that I am loyal and honest to you and that I am grateful for you.

Dana H.


Good Morning face!
Good Morning eyes!
Good Morning Newspaper!
Good Morning Lies!
Good Morning grandmas phone calls at 7 am!
Good Morning text messages from my best friend!
Good Morning alarm clock
Good Morning birds outside
Good Morning drool
Good Morning crust in my eyes
Good Morning tummy
your growl is scary
Good Morning locs
you sure are lookin hairy
Good Morning shower
I know you missed me
Good Morning sisters and brothers
Good Morning love
Good Morning life
Good Morning heartache
Good Morning strife
Good Morning lover
twitter, I mean
Good Morning facebook
Im still on your team
Good Morning pizza for breakfast
Good Morning HU
Good Morning raised tuition
Aint nothin new
Good Morning morning, it coulda been worse
Good Morning morning, you made it here first
But afternoon is coming
And when thats thru
I'll have to say Good Night to you

Touch the Sky - AHM #2

The saying- "you have to crawl before you walk" is all to familar. Today I can confidently say that I dont believe in it. In the grand scheme of things, this saying calls for one to settle...crawling often means for you to aim low and then build yourself up. But if you know what you want and you think that you can do what you want, why not aim for the top. Why cant we have everything we want when we think we are ready for it. If im fresh out of college and I think that I would make a wonderful community organizer, why not go for that very position. When people aim low, they sometimes get comfortable and cease to ever reach the stars; their drive decreases; and ultimately, they are okay with not being all that they could be and living up to their God given potential...its problematic.
In short, we need to stop being scared to aim high. Instead, we need to make sure we are prepared, take the necessary steps to attain the goal and go for it. When you position yourself for mediocracy, its exactly what you get. Sometimes you have to go out on faith and position your life in a way where success is the only option....

Tuesday, June 1, 2010

AH HA Moment- Marriage friendships

Im starting something new. Its called my "Ah ha moment". I'm hoping that I can challenge myself to figure out a problem and confront it, all in the same post. I need this because I dont do well with interpersonal conversations-I need to feel like Im talking to someone, even if I am saying this to myself. You are my audience right now so, I will talk to you (although its advice that Im giving to myself). So I hope you enjoy....


I have done it, and if you are a female, you have probably done it too...its a common issue...we have approached our relationships, as if they were marriage.

Women, who someday want to get married, work extra hard to hide flaws, be the ideal woman, and end up treating their man like a husband. Sometimes he may not even be your "boyfriend" but you will make him a special priority. Why? Because you cant distinguish between being a friend, a girlfriend, and a wife. For some of us, all 3 of these titles mean the same thing-and they shouldnt.

How can someone appreciate you as their wife when you act the same as when you were just their girlfriend...why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free???
Truth of the matter is that there is a line, and we disrespect it, cross it, ignore it, all the time.

Dont treat any ol man as you would your husband. Especially if he doesnt treat you like his wife. Dont let any ol man put his dusty shoes all over your welcome mat, then step into your house. Be careful of who you let in and to what extent. Allow people the opportunity to prove themselves.